lessons on bathing suits, from a little girl in lycra

Over the last twenty or so years I’ve bought more bathing suits than I can count. I’ve coveted expensive pieces; despised ones that simply don’t fit (and should have never been purchased). I’ve found a select few that were perfect (and sadly, didn’t last forever). I should add that I’ve also invested in a stack of modest cover ups, like any self respecting woman.

I still remember one of my first swimsuits – a wonder woman one piece. I wore that thing to bits, because who wouldn’t? Conquering the monkey bars was possible simply because of that suit. I was a four year old on a mission, baking in the hot Louisiana sun. The world was my oyster. Clad in a little piece of lycra.

Since then, bathing suit memories are littered across my past; tributes to summers well spent. The skimpy pieces I wore throughout high school and college; the more refined ones I now choose as a mother of two. I have a swimwear drawer that reflects the changes my body has experienced over two pregnancies and breastfeeding stints. Selecting a swimsuit two months postpartum isn’t anything to scoff at. Finding something that’s appropriate for nursing on a pool deck? Equally complicated. In certain two pieces I still have moments when I wonder whether the line of my c-section – the best battle scar I could possibly hope for – is showing. Who cares? my husband says.

He is so right.

When I first found out Gemma was a girl, I made a conscious promise to abandon any body image issues – or at least confine them to my own mind. I certainly didn’t want to pass that type of negativity on to my girl. And now, with two daughters, it’s a goal that’s  even more poignant. I want them to feel beautiful because of who they are, and what they can do, versus how they look. Easier said than done, you say. Agreed. But I strive to be a rock in the sea of images and voices that consciously (and subconsciously) echo “you’re not good enough”. Because those will always exist. And it’s my job to drown them, as a woman with over thirty-six years of experience.

I am strong. And they will be too.

I first spotted a tiger suit on the JCrew website two months ago. It was perfect for Gemma, my big-cat obsessed daughter. I pulled the trigger on the 39.50 price tag (a bit steep, but did I mention it was perfect?). Since then, she’s worn it practically every visit to the pool. She’s become “the girl in a tiger suit who pretends to be a tiger.” Diving and jumping and floating (and even growling, periodically). A tiger.

Last weekend, we visited my parents in Connecticut. Gemma selected the suit for a dip in the pool. Her grandparents were impressed. We all discussed how “incredible” and “beautiful” it is.

“it’s not beautiful,” she responded. “It’s fearless.”

And my heart sang.

If only she can remain so fearless. Clad in a little piece of lycra.

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Freshly Picked Baby Moccasion Giveaway!

Quality children’s footwear is hard to come by. I’m always on the lookout for shoes that are comfortable and cute, versatile, and easy to put on. At 5, Gemma’s able to tell me what does and doesn’t feel right. At 1.5, it’s more of a struggle with Cleo. She scrunches up her little, delicious, toddler toes when something isn’t “good”. And although it’s incredibly adorable – that’s usually my signal.

I was sent a pair of gold Freshly Picked moccasins about a month ago, and I have to say we’re (as in Cleo and I) in love. They’re incredibly easy, soft, and stylish to boot (in fact, many adults have noted they’d love a full sized version!) She wears her moccs everywhere; the park, the pool, and even taking a little walk on the sidewalk. She doesn’t resist putting them on (can’t say the same for all footwear), and will even bring them to me when we’re preparing to leave the house. They’re everything I’ve been looking for in a tiny shoe, and I have no doubt we’ll be wearing these puppies threadbare.

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the little details

It's been a while since I've written here; I've been busy and experiencing an admitted case of tunnel vision. Some home projects, Gemma finishing up pre-kindergarten, a mild sleep disruption on Cleo's part. And occasionally we all need a break - Continue Reading